![]() I'm very aware that the poor have been historically oppressed especially in recent capitalist societies like the US, I absolutely agree that it's a problem that capital owners continuously try to deflect through propaganda. Going from a 6 to a 7 may not seem like much, but it makes a big difference in your dating life. Maybe even an 8, depending on how you used your 20s. Someone who used to think of you as a 6 would now think of you as a 7. But it does improve your odds in a noticeable way. This isn't going to radically transform your life and land you a supermodel. For the exact same reasons discussed above. Whereas for women, their pool of eligible partners keeps shrinking. Guys don't have similar issues with dating younger women, so that 23-year old you just asked out is also going to be asked out by guys in their late 20s who are richer, have more impressive career accomplishments, and are more mature.Īs you get older, your pool of eligible partners keeps growing. Women generally prefer not to date a guy significantly younger than them, so you're basically left with the girls your age. Attraction isn't a binary, it's a spectrum.Īs a guy in your early 20s who has left the the college bubble, your eligible dating pool is at its very smallest size. I think the person you're replying to has a valid point. It's leaving a lot of people lonely and a lot of people very bitter. Social media and casual access to the top physically attractive men has completely distorted how the sexual marketplace is working. Women have increasingly deluded sense of what men and women should look like. You can do that when you're 18 and not wait until you're 30. Which, again, is not related to age but more related to getting cosmetic surgery done. They're not gonna have stuff change when they get older short of doing significant cosmetic surgery. Lots of men don't have social anxiety but are just fuggos. Surprise, women were always interested in you, you just never took it further because you had social anxiety. Once they did that - wow - suddenly they're having sex with lots of women. It's often spoken by men who were rich, physically attractive, and had great social networks but had severe social anxiety and learned later in life how to lessen their social anxiety. This idea that average looking guys just needed to hit 30 before they got to date all the hot 20-somethings is so farfetched and delusional. End of the day - whether or not they find you physically attractive is the most important thing above all - it's the bare minimum to start an interaction (especially with online but more and more true with in person these days too). Just because you have built up incredible emotional maturity, stability, and intellect doesn't mean someone wants to be with you. Just because you hit staff and make $500k/yr doesn't mean they want to be with you. If you were never attractive before to women, you don't suddenly become attractive to them when you're older. My personal experience and the experience of men I know is that this is not how it turns out. > So suddenly (assuming you've put some work in) the dating (and sex) life becomes a balanced game. Only focusing on <30 males seems like a scope very useless to analyze the issue, if not from the negativa mental health consequences this have for young men People already get married and have kids later, and have for a while. But people have moved country and cities for all form of opportunities (including mating) so this is a way easier problem to solve, if one prioritizes it. This is ofc affected by other factors such as culture and demographics, which is closely tied to locations. So suddenly (assuming you've put some work in) the dating (and sex) life becomes a balanced game. If family is a desire then that also add a sense of urgency However, around 28 and forward this drastically changed and anyone above 30 can probably recall how the dynamic switches around this age group men get more comfortable about themselves and women realizes that they're competing against people younger than them (which is a group growing every year). I simply gave up, which was a good choice for a poor, stressed out and anxious engineering student. My early 20s, online dating era romantic life was miserable it made me feel completely worthless and that's a sentiment A LOT of young men get from those dating apps. The article comes off as slightly condescending even as I'm 32 and just above the "Young men" threshold (30 women?
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